Tuesday, October 8, 2013

5 months post op

For the most part things are still pretty much the same. Daily dilating, overall total body stretching and perineal massage a couple of times a week have allowed me to have mostly pain free sex. I think the initial pain with dilation and penetration is getting slightly better but it’s hard to tell since it hasn't been too bad at all since the surgery.

I've been using the Axiron every other day which greatly reduced my headaches, nausea and acne, but it doesn't seem to be enough for any of the positive effects of the testosterone either. I plan to slowly increase from every other day to every day to see if it will help with my drive.

Last weekend I was in San Diego with my husband and mother-in-law for her visit to California. It was busy, but we had a great time. I told my husband it felt weird to be in San Diego and not have an appointment at SDSM. Since 2011 anytime I visited San Diego I had a trip to see Dr G.  I almost stopped in just to say hi, but I didn't want anyone to think I was crazy. I maybe should have though because when I sent my 5 month pictures this week, Dr. Goldstein thought I might have recurring glands and that we needed to talk about it. I’m not going to lie - that was not at all what I was expecting to hear, but I’m trying not to let it get me down. I’m still leaps and bounds from where I was before.

I had a phone appointment with Dr. G to discuss the plan of care for these silly glands. They pretty much showed up out of nowhere and can prove to be an issue. So far I haven't noticed any effects from the glands regarding lubrication or pain (that I know of). The local hormone cream and the Axiron should help. If they become painful and the medicine isn't working then the next step would be surgical removal. I'm really hoping we don't have to go down that road even though Dr G assured me it would be nothing like the vestibulectomy. 


  1. Hi Melissa, I got to your website by looking for ways to organise tabs in Blogger and found your husband's site, which lead me here. God bless you. You frankly discuss a topic that I think many people wouldn't and who may leading lives of quiet misery.

    I wish you and your wonderful husband all the best.

  2. Thank you for your kind words Sandra. You are right that most people wouldn't want to discuss that topic, but unfortunately there are many other women who suffer from the same thing. It's my hope that my story can help someone else either through this blog or another way.

    I hope that my husband's advice was helpful in organizing your blogger. He listened to what I wanted on this blog and then made it happen. Sadly, I don't use it nearly enough though.

  3. Hello - I would like to know the outcome of your vestibulectomy. Are you happy you had it? Did you have to go back for more surgery? Thank you.

    1. I am so sorry. I haven't been using my blog for awhile so I am just now seeing this post.

      I am happy with the outcome of my vestibulectomy. At this point I am totally healed in terms of the vestibulydnia and only have problems with low desire probably related to low testosterone.

      I did not have to have any follow up procedures and the glands that Dr G was concerned about when I wrote this post actually never caused any problems at all.